Category: Parent Talk
things have been a bit hectic around here, we have a new baby girl and noah isn't liking it one bit. he only wants in my lap if i'm holding her and has even went as far as taking her binkys and crawling away with them in his mouth when he hasn't liked a dang binky since he was 6 weeks old. he was taking 4 or 5 steps at a time but now he won't even crall he wants to be baby again. I don't know how long were going to have the baby girl because it's cps ordered that I take her, because her mom is a crack head, so I don't know weather i should even worrie about it or not.
oy, i love my little boy, but this behaivier has got to stop, i'm starting to wonder if i made a mistake in his up bringing or if all babys do this. I thought he was too young to display the signs of jellisy... I was wrong.
I was looking for some one who's recently had a seccond baby or just anyone who knows what to do. lol.
first of all, great job that you are involved in foster care. that is so important.
how old is your son? I had two kids who were 15 months apart. It can be challenging at times believe me.
God gave us two arms and two legs. if your son wants to snuggle with you and the new baby, that isn't necessarily a bad thing. Just explain to him that the baby must be treated gently.
When a new baby arrives some regression is normal and probably inevitable. that's why the so called experts don't recommend making a life altering development event like potty training or moving to a big boy/girl bed coincide with the li'l darling's arrival.
I think that jealousy is putting a negative spin on a real problem. it has been my experience that the green monster doesn't visit much before age two. Your child is crying out for attention and reassurance. If this little girl came from a crack addicted mom, I imagine that she requires a lot of extra attention. Remember that acting out is a way to get noticed even if it is negatively. Give your little boy extra time and care. Remember he was here first. The baby can wait a few minutes if you are in the midst of doing something with your son. Hope I am making sense and that this helps.
all that you said did make since. thank you so much. he's only 12 months. he just had a birthday on the 31st. so he's still a baby baby also.
i'll remember all that you said, and again, thanks so much.
Wow, I wasn't aware you guys had a baby girl as well. I really hope it goes well, and well you are finally getting your family it seems, lol. I'm really happy for you, and tell Noah bear I said happy late birthday.
Jess
Wow! First of all, I want to tell you how wonderful you are. You are one very noble person to be doing what you do. I commend you for contributing to society in the nice way that you are. It has got to be difficult, but I'm sure you do great!
About the regression thing. According to medical experts, and I'll eventually be one myself, regression, especially at that young of an age, is completely and entirely normal. Even older children regress to much younger for various reasons--firstborn jealousy, sexual and physical abuse, severe trauma, chronic illness, fear, anxiety, lifechanging events that are troublesome to accept (i.e. a move into a new house, a death in the family, or a divorce.) to name a few of the numerous circumstances that could cause such a thing to occur. The best and only thing you could do is just be patient and let it run its course. Let him act the age he wants. It will not cause him dammage, and he will grow out of it when he is tired of it. It is not good to force the child to act age appropriate, as it would cause more problems, some psychological.
I do have to go right now, as I'm preparing to see my own doctor for some health issues, but when i come back, I'll find some articles that will help you get through this and give you some reassurance through such a time. See you in a few hours or so.
And please, hang in there. Let him sit in your lap and be cuddled. Twelve months is very, very much still a baby. Don't rush him to grow up too fast because these precious years are fleeting. Society puts more and more demands on children--rushing them to grow up and become independent well before they can even understand what is going on, but don't follow the trends. Hold onto this time and cherish it because as my mother has always said, once these years are gone, there is no getting them back. My mother is so sad because her children are slowly leaving the nest. Out of six of us, there are three left in the nest and soon to be two. I hope I've helped and that I've made sense.
Agreed with all that has been said. Though I'm no medical expert, I'd also say that you should spend time with your son and show him that no one can ever replace him. He'll always be your's and first no matter what. I also have to congradulate you on the wonderful job you're doing. There should definitely be more people like you out there. Tell Noah a belated happy birthday from Eleni. *smile*
Because i want to make good on my word, i'm back with some of the resources I promised.
this website is a wonderful resource for all things baby and children. It covers just about every issue that parents face. You'll find everything here from babies and children to jealousy, tantrums, and discipline issues. I strongly feel that a lot of articles on this site will put you at ease and make life a bit easier for you.
The Natural Child Project is another fabulous resource. This site has just about all the information that you'll need concerning babies and children, which will enable you to feel like you are going into this whole thing as a strong warrior and conquerer, ready to take anything that comes your way. With knowledge, there is power, and this site will surely provide a lot of knowledge on a vast variety of subjects.
Furthermore, Doctor Sears website is one of the best resources online. He has been a pediatrician for quite some time and is the author of some of the best and most renoun selling parenting books. If anyone can help you, he certainly can. i put a lot of faith in him.
Then, there is Parenting freedom While this site has a Biblical touch to it, it has a lot to offer. This site contains a lot of well researched information and is maintained by a mother herself. She shares her experiences, as well as pertinent information from one mom to another.
I hope this will help you thus far. It is late, and I'm about to go to sleep. I just wanted to keep my word to you and quickly come back and give you the resources that I think will be most helpful during this time. When I have a break tomorrow, I will do some more digging into my database of stuff saved and come back with more for you. It is always my joy to help, and may things work out soon.
thanks for all the grate information guys.
and thanks for the links to the wonderful websights, but i've seen them all before, it's ok though, I apreshiate the time and effort it took to find them.
It is no problem. I've come on during my work break to see how this thread has progressed. I will still look for the more information that I have as promised. Please keep us posted about how things are going with your situation.